Marriage is a quintessential element of our lives. No matter how abhorrent we might be to the fact of saying I do and having to stay with one single human all our lives. Nonetheless we eventually get married ! Terrifying right ? I have seen good marriages and the worst ones. So I don’t know how will this phase out for me considering that I already have a particular mindset built.
Recently I attended a wedding and all these thoughts came crawling in and watching the bride and groom made me imagine myself in their shoes someday. Not that I’m scared of marriage but the uncertainty entailing the survival of a marriage being so high these days, leaves me thinking what if ?
I’m not alone when I say all that , majority people (my age, old and young) that I know stand by this viewpoint I’ve had this conversation with so many friends of mine and of late this has been the hottest topic of discussion. Maybe that’s cause most of us fall under the same age group i.e. late 20s where marriage seems to be like the next plausible step. All of us have been in bad relationships, one of the many reasons why we now choose to stay single and be responsible for our own happiness while escaping all the drama that a relationship holds. Honestly, I never thought the single life for me would turn out to be super chill otherwise i was caught up in a web of bad relationship one after the other without giving myself enough time to recoup.
Furthering my conversation with my friends I have come to conclude that though we are scared of the mess a marriage can create yet we want to find our partners and have someone to share our lives with eventually . Marriage to me seems like a total gamble, if you find the right one, 90% of your life is sorted, and if not then by all means you are fucked.
While talking to the elderly in my circle , I have come to realise that there are no set rules that might make a marriage work (saving you an enormous amount of cash you’d be tempted to waste on self help books) . One has to think on their feet and choose the things that suit best to both the partners. Here I’m trying to save you from all the cash you’d want to waste on self help books. No one knows that one formula that saves marriages or helps us choose the right partner.
In the end it’s either you hit the bull’s eye or you and as much as i know from my 25 years of existence is that experiences are our best teachers . Considering my past relationships, I at least now know what I don’t want in a relationship.
Like Amy Poehler in her book “Yes Please” quotes “I think we should stop asking people in their twenties what they ‘want to do’ and start asking them what they don’t want to do. Instead of asking students to ‘declare their major’ we should ask students to ‘list what they will do anything to avoid.'”
Somehow, we are lucky to be born in this generation where we have the opportunity and right to have serious relationships or flings and choose what we actually want as a matter of right without having anyone to judge us or have this dialoque behind closed doors so as to avoid awkwardness so for that I am really grateful and bad for oldies who could not avail such perks.
Thank you to all those who took out time to read this and probably are introspecting now about there future or current relationships. I just hope y’all find someone who makes your live as fun as you always wanted it to be and don’t forget to do the same for them.
Shop my look at : Chikankari suit ensemble , Drop Kundan Earrings , Auraa Trends Kundan Tikka , Charles and Keith Golden Sling , Micheal Kors Black Shades , Burberry Rose Gold Analogue and Embellished Charles and Keith Golden Block Heels
I have attached photos from both an evening wedding and a day wedding and likewise you too can rock this look any time of the day because the classic cream never lets you down nor does it fail to make heads turn. Modesty is not my forte, really.